Why do we need relationships? We can answer this particular question with everything we know about the subject and where it fits the situation in which we find ourselves in. We need relationships because they give meaning and richness to what and with whom we are so deeply involved. We need relationships because we know, as we are so convinced to believe about, that these are the glue that holds us together at times when we are thrown into a difficult situation.
We need relationships because these can show us how to love and be loved. We need relationships because we are social animals, and society has become a network of relationships that we can all explore. We need relationships because we have something to share with other people and, the more relationships we can have, the better. We need relationships because these can be a way in which we can trust other people while they learn to correspond in the same way. We need relationships because these are essential for our survival.
Most of the time, building relationships is the foundation that must be established before anything else is done in a particular task. The bigger the task, the more relationships we usually need as a base. And while spending time in a relationship can make us feel better, it’s not enough, since we can’t get the job done with just that.
Being in a relationship is never easy, because it requires maintenance to keep it intact and strong. We have to give it our full attention, to keep things fresh, and to find ways in which we can better navigate the complicated ups and downs of a relationship that each of us faces. Therefore, the need for relationship goals has become increasingly important.
Goals are important in a way that will help our relationships to thrive, although that may sound much easier than it really is. We can listen to so many people about their goals in life and about other things that may directly or indirectly involve them in the process. But life can be busy and relationships can sometimes seem trivial. However, we can take a look at the following relationship objectives that are really worth achieving:
We must stop comparing ourselves with others. Like it or not, there are always people who are better and worse than us. Like it or not, there will always be people in our lives who have accomplished more than we do, and whose presence can serve as inspiration as we move along the path we are following. Like it or not, there will always be people who, on the other hand, try to provoke any comparison that, in some way, only makes us feel unhappy and dissatisfied with what we are having.
In the case of our relationship with others, it is very tempting to compare it with other people’s relationships, especially when things go wrong. But we must stop comparing ourselves or our relationships to other people’s relationships. This is simply because when we compare ourselves with others or our relationship with other people’s relationships, we most likely do it the wrong way.
Most of the time, we tend to compare those that we believe are the good of other people with our own unique ways of doing things. We must bear in mind that our ways are not for anyone else and that each relationship is completely unique. Every person who has entered into our lives and has established a relationship with us has a different way of expressing their love for us, as well as having a different capacity to love.
Of course, different relationships can teach us many different things, and that’s fine. But one of the easiest ways to make our relationships fail is to compare them with others. We should refrain from judging the relationships of other people, as we should also do with our own relationships.
We all make mistakes. We are not perfect (nobody is), but we can try to see the good side of the person or people with whom we are in a relationship and learn to accept them as they are. We must learn to love ourselves and accept everything about ourselves because it is a way in which we can really increase our self-esteem. And healthy self-esteem, according to popular wisdom, is a prerequisite for a healthy relationship.
We must make love with our relationship partner more often. For those who say that sex is something less important in a relationship, they do not really tell the truth about it. Sex may not be the single most important thing in a relationship, but it is one of the most important things in a relationship.
We can’t underestimate the importance of sex in a healthy relationship as it is part of the glue that binds us to our partner together. A really good sex within the relationship can be a deep and powerful form of intimacy, in such a way that it unites and connects two people in ways that few other things can.
When we make love with our relationship partner, we are really doing what can make us focus more on the other person. We must make love with someone we love as often as possible, as it can make us feel better, resulting in a healthy relationship. We must do everything possible to have a healthy and satisfying sex life with our partner.
Sex is the union that takes place between two people that transcends time and space. It should feel good, relaxing, and loving. Otherwise, when doing so only makes us feel guilty or insecure, it can actually make us feel more stressed, and tired. If done the right way, so that we honor each other correctly, and with genuine love, sex will probably help us feel closer to our partner.
We must learn to listen more than we speak. Most relationships that failed have their own reasons, but have we ever wondered what those reasons are? The fact that we do not see everything that is going on with other people’s lives and relationships, and we really would not know why, unless they tell us, it is not our business to examine and interfere in these things in the first place when we have a lot to do with the relationships of our own. But, for the sake of curiosity and for which we can learn something, at least we can speculate as best as possible about why some relationships fail.
We are surprised to see many good relationships that do not last long. What goes wrong, we can ask. Well, it seems that these people who were in a relationship say something that they did not really understand in the first place. They are probably talking more than they could hear each other.
We must listen more than we could talk to reach an agreement with our relationship partner. Listening carefully will allow us to focus on what the other person is saying and consider it. We must learn to listen first before reaching a conclusion because, by listening, we can see things from the other person’s point of view.
To the extent that we like to talk to the person is all because what we really want is to connect, a listening heart, however, is twice as important as talking. Maybe that’s why we have two ears and one mouth. We can benefit a lot, especially in our relationships with others, from good listening, because doing so is like seeing the world through the eyes of the other person and we can only understand.
We should always be grateful in everything, even in our sufferings. Many blessings await those who are always grateful for the good things they have and enjoy. We must live with a spirit of thanksgiving and praise, even in our darkest moments, since doing so is a way we can have greater happiness and satisfaction in life.
Yes, being grateful can actually make us healthier and happier. We should always give thanks for everything, regardless of the circumstances, because the easiest and fastest way to become bitter, dissatisfied, and selfish is through our ingratitude. Ingratitude will separate us from what ideally we should be.
In the case of our relationships with other people, gratitude helps maintain them. Being grateful is very important because it can strengthen our interpersonal relationships, so that we can identify the people who are most receptive to our needs, which in turn makes us more united. Ingratitude ruins everything (not even our relationships are safe), since it is a selfish act that disconnects us with our goodness and sense of intrinsic value.
Gratitude can lead to love in many ways than what we think we know. We can’t have love without gratitude since love and gratitude are inseparable. We can express love and appreciation for anything in such a way that gratitude becomes the expression of our love. Being truly grateful to another simply means that we find them adorable in such a way that we can accept their love for us.
It is easier to focus on what is missing in our lives, and in our relationships, that we forget that most of us have much more than many others in this world. We must pay attention to the positive and supportive behaviors of our relationship partner and show our appreciation for his or her effort. Undoubtedly, showing gratitude will build stronger relationships and help us obtain better results in every area of our lives.
We need to take good care of ourselves. We have to take care of ourselves because it is one of the best things we can do not only for ourselves, but also for those we care about. Most of the time, it is easier for us to put ourselves at the bottom of the list, because our priorities are for those who matter to us and we do not have much time left for what we can do for ourselves. We are so busy taking care of others that we put aside our own personal care.
Taking care of ourselves is important, and it is not a selfish act. We should not feel guilty about it because we owe it to ourselves that we should take better care of ourselves. One of the reasons behind this is that we can never take care of anyone else unless we have taken care of ourselves.
Taking care of ourselves is taking care of everyone. The opposite implies many risks, and one of these risks is the risk of exhaustion. That’s why it’s harder for us to take care of others and ourselves in that way. Personal care is important because it can increase our sense of self-love that allows us to appreciate and accept ourselves for what we are.
If we are conscious of satisfying our own needs, we would become a more valuable relationship partner in the process in such a way that, as we are better equipped in our own capacity, we can more efficiently support not only ourselves but also others. But how can we take care of ourselves? Do we need to have guidelines to do that?
Taking care of ourselves must start with the basics. We do not have to force it, but it must be something that we find pleasant, relaxing, and refreshing. We can start by doing what makes us happy and then, gradually, in things where we can get many benefits, such as exercising regularly, eating well, having enough time to sleep, and so on. Personal care requires that we identify our needs and take the necessary measures to comply with them.
We need to have more time with our partner to talk about anything. No matter how perfect we believe our relationship should be, if we lack mutual openness, it is likely that the future of that relationship will be obscure. We should try to open up and start listening carefully to each other.
Mutual openness in a relationship can mean different things to different people. We may want to be open with our partner about what we feel and what we have in mind, and be able to discuss whatever disagreement we have had with each other in a calm manner. So maybe we can buy the argument that sharing is synonymous with caring, to the extent that it will convince us that talking about everything can help us.
When we unfold and offer our personal belongings, undivided attention, material wealth, time, emotional energy, consideration, and everything we have for the other person, it only shows one thing, and that’s because we really care about that person in the first place. Regardless of the type of openness we desire with the other person, we must bear in mind that effective communication can play an important role and is crucial to the success or failure of what will happen.
Opening up to the other person is not just talking about things that we can simply agree with, but it is also advisable to talk about uncomfortable things and try to resolve these things if they can ever affect the relationship in that way. Sharing is perhaps, in my humble opinion, the best gesture to show that we care. The more we open ourselves to the other person, the stronger our relationship with that person becomes.
We must keep the flame of love burning alive in a relationship. If we have been in a relationship with the same person for a long time, things may get boring and we may feel that we should look for ways to keep the fire burning to keep the relationship strong. There is nothing to worry about if we can feel this way about our relationship, since it is normal for us to feel this way from time to time.
But we must bear in mind that relationships, as with everything in life, must be worked on, in such a way that we strive to make an effort to keep them interesting, and to be spontaneous and creative with our own romance. We must find ways to remind each other how we both feel at the beginning of our relationship. We both feel full of energy, excited, happy, and enthusiastic. These wonderful feelings do not have to disappear, and that is what we should strive for in our relationship.
So, what are these things that can keep the fire burning in our relationship? We must be creative, to begin with. This is very important since those who have been in a relationship for a long time may run the risk of falling into the narrow, monotonous routine. We can feel that as the years go by and our priorities change, sometimes we feel frustrated and this can be a big factor that affects the way we treat the other person with whom we are in a relationship.
We can do creative things weekly for our relationship, such as giving a massage to our partner, cooking or baking together, creating a new recipe, cooking our partner’s favorite dish (but with a twist), leave love notes in our partner’s closet, and so on. These are just simple and ordinary things, but we will notice that, if we dedicate ourselves to doing these things, our relationship will surely grow in the best that it can be. We can also try to introduce some surprises to keep alive the suspense and emotion in our relationship.
We should try new things together and confirm with each other throughout the day. When we try to find new activities that we can have for each other, we must make sure they are novel and exciting. This is due to the fact that the novelty can help us and our partner to create new memories and, at the same time, to feel like a team while trying something new. The excitement that this activity can generate can make us feel that our relationship is more exciting.
We must also celebrate victories together. While it is vital to support our partner in difficult times, it is equally important to provide support when things go well. This has been shown many times that couples who can celebrate achievements and victories together are more satisfied with their relationships.
We should not let the old flames of our relationship disappear, but we can always have something to do, if we can bring it back to the beginning with the best we have at hand. We should not take our relationship for granted. It’s usually the small things that count most, but they’re also what most of us seem to overlook.
We must learn to forgive. Learning to forgive our partner when they have done something that disappoints us can be one of the most difficult things to do in a relationship. This is because when we are in a state for which we feel disappointed, deceived, or betrayed, the idea of forgiving someone can be interpreted as giving in to such a thing, and in which we allow the perpetrator to get away with it easily. But, then, an act of forgiveness is important because it is one of the most important contributors to a healthy relationship.
We must learn to forgive because it is a way of accepting the fact that we all have separate minds and points of view. We must learn to forgive because we are all going to make mistakes. We must learn to forgive, as well as to ask for forgiveness, because it is a way in which we allow our relationship, and also ourselves, to heal and grow. When we forgive someone, especially those close to our hearts, we are actually doing something good for ourselves, as we give up resentment in trying to restore what has been damaged or lost.